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I've seen some ads stating that you'll get more matches if you aren't smoking in your profile pic. I doubt it's going to stop people who smoke from smoking. Smoking isn't really that popular anyway, outside of a few groups. What it will lead to is smokers not smoking in their profile pics. That whole music video is kind of ridiculous too. And 'hottie'? That's so last decade. Who even says 'hottie' these days without feeling a little silly? It just screams early 2000's to me. That whole ad is dumber than last year's attempt to disgust people by doing the whole cat pee and dog poop bit.

If you wanna smoke, then smoke. Maybe you don't get that many matches online, but there are other smokers who aren't going to let themselves be shamed by that stupid ad. And besides that, who wants to impress a rapper who seems to think it's still 2003? Me? I use tobacco, but I use the Swedish snus, so unless you're looking for a bulge on my upper lip, you're not gonna know that I'm riding the nicotine dragon, folks. I'd still get lotsa matches. The anti-smoking crowd, who seems to be unable to mind their own business, really needs to rethink their tactics on keeping people from smoking.

Now me? If I wanted to discourage smoking or drug use, I would educate people about the risks without using shocking images or silly song and dance routines. I'd also avoid using people who have had parts removed due to cancer. I'd tell them that they may go their entire lives without ever getting sick, or they could get sick - and there's a chance they would need some unpleasant surgery. The thing is, my Cherokee ancestors smoked for years and they did live long, healthy lives. Smoking was a way for the tribe to get together and chat, tell stories, gossip, etc. I highly doubt they got cancer from smoking the communal pipe.

So please, truth.org, stop embarrassing yourselves.
Paid about $32-33 for a set of two 2-gig ram sticks. Did lots of research beforehand because I wanted to make sure that I was buying the right kind of RAM. Also downloaded the instructions for my particular laptop. Damn glad I did. I needed a little help with getting the keyboard off, as one of the ports for the RAM was there. It was a bit of a scary experience, but after unplugged and turned it on with the battery in, I was in business. Just had to press F1 to save the new settings. Hopefully, now I can enjoy my Sims 3 with fewer crashes.
So aspie stalker is at it again, telling me how rude I am, and even calling our meet-up the 'retard meetup'. He claims to me a misanthrope, which now I heartily agree. He was nice at the meetup, but he turned rude in email because I took a day or so to reply. You know. Busy with real life and stuff. But the two things that really take the cake are him calling the group 'retard meetup' and then referring to my counselor (who started the meetup) as a 'bitch'.

This woman has helped me with a lot of things and she is still helping me to become someone who can function independently in society. She helped me improve - I was a sullen, shy mess at my first session. She helped me open up. And he called her a bitch.

I didn't reply to that last message. Part of me wants to, but part of me knows it would be no good. I hope I never have any kind of contact with him again. Nice part of having aspergers is, you tell the truth - even if it hurts. This dude also told me I have issues. No. I have boundaries. I also have a low tolerance for bad spelling and grammar, as well as someone emailing me and then jumping and emailing again when I don't immediately answer.

People like this dude give aspergers syndrome a bad name. Please, if you have aspergers, don't be like this guy. Show some consideration and learn some email etiquette. Think about how the other person feels. Even I do that. Not always, but I'm doing that a lot more. Therapy can help, you know.

Honestly, this guy is kinda scary now. I hope he keeps his word and never contacts me again. Here is part of the exchange (names and email addresses are edited out) :

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From: [aspie stalker]
To: [sanjouin-dacapo]
Subject: Re:
Date: Thu, 19 Mar 2015 05:51:49 +0000

no comment just say the word and I will never write you again or call [sanjouin-dacapo] as far as [therapist] goes I actually sent her a message and told her what a bitch she was in the meeting definitely wasn't into what she was doing that's for sure but anyways nothing is out of hand I just don't get you is all you were so cool that night but as soon as I called you were rude so I think its you with issues sweetheart

From: [sanjouin-dacapo]
Sent: ‎Wednesday‎, ‎March‎ ‎18‎, ‎2015 ‎10‎:‎43‎ ‎PM
To:
[aspie stalker]

I am not being rude. Ironically, you are being rude by emailing me multiple times like this as if the email is an instant messenger. And 'retard meetup'? That was uncalled for and very rude. As a society, we need to follow certain social guidelines. I know it may sound silly, but we all need to follow rules when interacting with others. Part of the point of this so-called 'retard meetup' (which sounds kind of offensive) is to help us learn these things. You like being an outcast, but then you impose your rules on others like myself. That is impolite. Please learn some basic email etiquette. I may have to email Linda about this before it gets out of hand.


From: [aspie stalker]
To: [sanjouin-dacapo]
Subject: Re:
Date: Wed, 18 Mar 2015 07:54:47 +0000

you could try being less rude to and say hi friend from retard meetup how are you [aspie stalker]

From: [sanjouin-dacapo]
Sent: ‎Tuesday‎, ‎March‎ ‎17‎, ‎2015 ‎11‎:‎55‎ ‎PM
To:
[aspie stalker]

Mostly I have been tuckered out. And please, use some proper capitalization, punctuation, and grammar? I am having a bit of a hard time understanding what you are writing :(


From: [aspie stalker]
To: [sanjouin-dacapo]
Subject: Re:
Date: Tue, 17 Mar 2015 20:18:46 +0000

hey [sanjouin-dacapo] how have you been hun find any cool new games

From: [sanjouin-dacapo]
Sent: ‎Wednesday‎, ‎March‎ ‎11‎, ‎2015 ‎4‎:‎25‎ ‎PM
To:
[aspie stalker]

You did. Maybe I was a bit irritated. Please do not confuse that with freaking out. Please, for your benefit, look up some sites that explain netiquette and read what they have to say. I used to email people the way you did, just sending emails and resending when I didn't get an immediate reply. It resulted in me becoming an internet pariah, and even getting threats. I don't think you'd want that. I'm giving you this advice because I have experienced the consequences of that kind of behaviour. I don't want the same to happen to you.


From: [aspie stalker]
To: [sanjouin-dacapo]
Subject: Re:
Date: Wed, 11 Mar 2015 20:17:31 +0000

well I misunderstood you then

From: [sanjouin-dacapo]
Sent: ‎Wednesday‎, ‎March‎ ‎11‎, ‎2015 ‎2‎:‎43‎ ‎AM
To: 
[aspie stalker]

I'm not being silly, and I'm not freaking out. I am trying to teach you how to interact with others. I am not freaking out; you are being impolite and disrespectful.


From: [aspie stalker]
To: s[sanjouin-dacapo]
Subject: Re:
Date: Wed, 11 Mar 2015 06:50:05 +0000

your the one who put your fucking phone number and email on my phone and freaking out when I contact you please your being silly lol

From: [sanjouin-dacapo]
Sent: ‎Tuesday‎, ‎March‎ ‎10‎, ‎2015 ‎11‎:‎47‎ ‎PM
To:
[aspie stalker]

[aspie stalker]. Please do not do that. Do not call me "Miss Anti Social". Also, please do not jump and email me like that if I am late to reply. We don't know each other very well and I kind of feel uncomfortable with that. I had a busy day today. I don't know if you were joking or not, but please talk with your counselor about this if possible. I'm also very tired. Anyway, in the future, please be patient and do not imply that I am 'anti social' for not replying soon enough. Mmkay?


From: [aspie stalker]
To: [sanjouin-dacapo]
Subject: Re:
Date: Wed, 11 Mar 2015 06:06:10 +0000

hello miss anti social its [aspie stalker] from the aspergers meetup did you find a job yet

From: [sanjouin-dacapo]
Sent: ‎Tuesday‎, ‎March‎ ‎3‎, ‎2015 ‎2‎:‎57‎ ‎PM
To:
[aspie stalker]

Chill :) your email came in fine. Please do not use all-caps though. I'm kind of beginning to realize how my early behaviour made other people feel. We can both learn from mistakes. It's all good. Just remember we need to both have healthy boundaries :)


From: [aspie stalker]
To: [sanjouin-dacapo]
Subject:
Date: Tue, 3 Mar 2015 21:44:52 +0000


hey hun not sure if you got my email looks like it didn't go out

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I really hope that this isn't my fault. Something tells me that part of it is. I really regret giving him my phone number and email address. If he emails me again, I will report him for harassment. Aspies. Don't do this.
I explained what I meant in a recent email to this guy, and he seems to get the message. This is at least some proof that aspies don't always get along better with other aspies or understand each other better. Maybe it has something to do with me learning certain things from experience and gaining some Neurotypical sensibilities, or just the fact that he was coming on too strongly. Also, this is proof that not all aspies are insane, rude dumbasses. And yes, I used to be an insane, rude dumbass. I got better.

For those who have Aspergers, please listen to people. If they tell you not to do something, don't do it (except for some extenuating circumstances like reporting abusive parents or spouses. Aspies need to develop some common sense, dammit). If a person tells you he or she is uncomfortable with you coming on so strongly, listen, and give that person space. And if a supposed friend breaks off contact with you suddenly and did not give any warnings on being uncomfortable with anything you did, even after you warned him or her about your condition and asked that this person tell you these things, then let the bridge burn. Don't burn bridges yourself, but don't repair any that are burning. I've experienced this before, and after dealing with it a few times along with other assorted crap, I've started getting more of a 'devil may care' attitude. It's good to have that, for the sake of your sanity.

Also, another warning for aspies: If someone tries to hold your hand or kiss you too early in the relationship, or even just touch you below the waist, then that person is behaving inappropriately. If this makes you feel uncomfortable, tell that person so. If he or she tells you that you're being 'standoffish' or that you don't like being touched, don't let that person guilt you. You have a RIGHT to your own personal space and to your body. It is YOUR BODY. You don't have to let some stranger touch you like that. Just tell that person you don't want to be touched like that. It's inappropriate. Also, don't do that to other people and then use Aspergers as an excuse. Just don't. It makes kittens cry.

Remember that "No" means "No" - don't try to touch and kiss other people you're interested in at early stages of the relationship. That other person may not be ready for that kind of contact. Aspies may have issues with sensory overload or past experiences where their personal space was violated. And for aspies who are being too forward, the neurotypical or other aspie might not think of you the same way. Erotomania is not cool. Go to a counselor. Get help. If someone says not to touch them, then have some sense and don't touch. Don't contribute to the bad rap we aspies have. Read about harassment, especially sexual and email harassment, and about stalking.

Another thing for aspies to note is that people will not always tell you if you are making them uncomfortable. They want to be polite, so you will have to tell them that you do not read nonverbal cues that well. It's kinda like social dyslexia - dyslexics can learn to read, but it is more difficult and takes longer than it would for non-dyslexics. You can learn some social cues. It'll take time and hard work, but it's worth it. Please, try to function in society and not be a total social misfit. You can be eccentric, but please keep it within reason and learn why things are done in certain ways. Think of how your actions make others feel.

Also, think of the kittens. Please.
I started going to these meetings for people with Aspergers Syndrome, and the second time I went, I met this guy around my age who seemed quiet nice and polite. He was a bit forward though. Maybe I shouldn't have given him my email and cell phone number. He called me twice in the middle of the night, and if I don't reply to his emails within like, a few hours, he jumps and emails me again, and in a recent email, he called me 'Miss anti social'. And when I told him that his behaviour was unacceptable, he accused me of 'freaking out'.

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Before I continue, yes, I do have Aspergers Syndrome, and yes, I did go down that same road that guy is going down. I used to be the clueless creepy stalker who sent relentless barrages of emails to various people. I learned from those mistakes. I learned from being flamed, threatened, and shunned. I learned to listen better and to think about how other people feel about certain things, and yes, I still have a long way to go. If you know me well, you also know that I tend to be very honest, especially when something is annoying me or creeping me out. I'm being honest with this guy, and he is not heeding my advice.

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No. I am not freaking out. I've learned quite a few things from the mistakes I've made and from my sessions with my counselor. What he's doing is inappropriate and rude, and it's kind of border-lining on creepy. I don't know him that well, and when someone you don't know that well keeps on messaging you and calls you in the middle of the night, it's a tad bit scary. If this continues, I'm going to have to forward his messages to my counselor, who organizes the meetings. This is just unacceptable.

I don't know if this guy is seeing a counselor or not, but he needs to learn some basic email and phone etiquette. I mean, hell, I learned that etiquette the hard way years ago. I learned to not be insistent, and to not keep emailing when people don't answer. The person may be busy with stuff like chores, and even then, some people are just slow to read and answer emails. I prefer to browse websites, instant message, play video games, draw, write, or make music. I also have responsibilities which I need to quit shirking.

Now, if this guy would have stopped being insistent and would just be patient and wait, then I would be more inclined to answer. However, his behaviour is becoming a real turn-off. It's getting creepy. The other net-buddies I gave my phone number to have not behaved this way. Maybe this is one reason why I'm having some trouble sleeping. Fuckity.

Anyway, I hope I'm not sounding like a bitch. I'm just starting to not feel safe when this guy tries to communicate with me, because he is not respecting my boundaries or listening to the advice I give him. People with Aspergers, please listen to advice, especially when it comes with all the subtlety of a shart in an elevator. It will do you a tremendous amount of good.

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I've seen some ads stating that you'll get more matches if you aren't smoking in your profile pic. I doubt it's going to stop people who smoke from smoking. Smoking isn't really that popular anyway, outside of a few groups. What it will lead to is smokers not smoking in their profile pics. That whole music video is kind of ridiculous too. And 'hottie'? That's so last decade. Who even says 'hottie' these days without feeling a little silly? It just screams early 2000's to me. That whole ad is dumber than last year's attempt to disgust people by doing the whole cat pee and dog poop bit.

If you wanna smoke, then smoke. Maybe you don't get that many matches online, but there are other smokers who aren't going to let themselves be shamed by that stupid ad. And besides that, who wants to impress a rapper who seems to think it's still 2003? Me? I use tobacco, but I use the Swedish snus, so unless you're looking for a bulge on my upper lip, you're not gonna know that I'm riding the nicotine dragon, folks. I'd still get lotsa matches. The anti-smoking crowd, who seems to be unable to mind their own business, really needs to rethink their tactics on keeping people from smoking.

Now me? If I wanted to discourage smoking or drug use, I would educate people about the risks without using shocking images or silly song and dance routines. I'd also avoid using people who have had parts removed due to cancer. I'd tell them that they may go their entire lives without ever getting sick, or they could get sick - and there's a chance they would need some unpleasant surgery. The thing is, my Cherokee ancestors smoked for years and they did live long, healthy lives. Smoking was a way for the tribe to get together and chat, tell stories, gossip, etc. I highly doubt they got cancer from smoking the communal pipe.

So please, truth.org, stop embarrassing yourselves.

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Lady1Venus Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
thank you for the fav
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ChenTheIrken Featured By Owner Feb 8, 2015  Hobbyist
Hey there. ^^ I've noticed you've observed the artistic improvement of :iconsonicclone:... Unfortunately, it's come at a price. He's become even more of an anal, ignorant prick lately. He blocked me over trying to convince him of the truth behind John Blake in The Dark Knight Rises, which he absolutely refuses to listen to whatsoever...
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sanjouin-dacapo Featured By Owner Feb 8, 2015  Student Digital Artist
Fukkin' A. He'll probably unblock you later on though. I go on and off his block list after all. Dude doesn't seem to be able to make his mind, ya know? I should totally continue my series of "How NOT To Draw" or maybe just start a series of Deviant Stupidity. Maybe it's partially inspired by the Ratchet Video Weekly series from the AdviseShow guy.
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ChenTheIrken Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2015  Hobbyist
Yep, you're most likely right. It's not the first time he blocked me, either. Last time he did it, it was the last time I went on about him not having the balls to do it, and he was all like "since you insist" and blocked me. Then when I noticed he unblocked me, he said he was giving me a "second chance". How pretentious...
As for your series proposal, I would totally be in support of that! :D Go for it!
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sanjouin-dacapo Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2015  Student Digital Artist
Thanks! It's fun to see funny, badly-drawn pictures. If you or any of your friends know of someone who draws crappy pictures and has a very bad attitude, or is acting totally creepy and stalker-like, give me some links! I'd love to see them!
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Lady1Venus Featured By Owner Dec 17, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
thank you for the fav
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TotallyDeviantLisa Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Hey sweetie! Would you like to see how I improve my art? :)
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sanjouin-dacapo Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2014  Student Digital Artist
Yeah. I've noticed your art is quite stylized, but it does employ a lot of basic shapes. Good start on that! Try working on some realism too though, because that can really help you improve.
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TotallyDeviantLisa Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
That's what I do for my anime! Thanks for the comment! :)
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Found you! :D
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