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I like how this character stands out more from her background, but I think you could lighten and desaturate it just a little so she sta...

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Some people would argue that a woman would not report continual sexual harassment simply because it would jeopardize her job, and it would suck to either move back home with her parents or even be unable to keep her current standard of living. However, I think that if she keeps silent due to not wanting to be fired, then she is essentially just putting a price on her integrity. She's saying that for [whatever they are paying her] she will tolerate being sexually harassed. For example, if her pay is $25 per hour, and she is being sexually harassed at work and is afraid to tell because she thinks she will be fired, then she is putting that very price on her integrity. Basically, she is saying, "You can harass me with sexually demeaning comments and perhaps even grope me for $25 per hour."

To me, it comes off as selling out - compromising your personal values and integrity for a specific price. I mean, ever hear a joke about a man who asked a woman if she'd sleep with him for a million dollars. She said, "Sure!" then he asked her if she'd sleep with him for a hundred dollars. She said, "What do you think I am? A whore?" He said, "We already got that part established - now we just have to agree on the price!"

If you don't like something about your job, and the environment is becoming hostile, please, as soon as possible, do something. Get out of that horrible environment if you have to, or report it, and make sure you document these cases. If you value your dignity and integrity, then don't sell out.

As for sexual harassment, I think it should be stomped out in the workplace. There's no excuse for it. I am in no way defending anyone who is sexually harassing coworkers. It is demeaning, and it causes stress, and really, there are people who need these jobs and don't want to have to ask for assistance from family or friends. People who bully or sexually demean coworkers or employees are scum. My mother had to deal with one such scum-bag who started bragging to her about his penis, and was telling her that she knew she wanted to touch it. Sexual harassment laws should be far tougher, I believe, but at the same time, we all have to start doing our parts to convince these companies that this behaviour is unacceptable and we will not support or work for them if that is what they allow.

In other words, we should not sell out.
One thing I do have to say about my sister - she knows how to talk with people who have aspergers, and she tells me how my inappropriate actions make her feel. She tells me what I am doing, she often uses a calm, even voice, though I wish she would not say that "sometimes it's better to suffer in silence."

My sister was far more pleasant than my mother was and far more understanding. She even noted the inappropriate actions of the man who sat down in my dad's chair - he was a total stranger to me, and really, I felt like I was in the Twilight Zone when he just popped over to my table and sat down in my dad's chair. Putting me in similar situations like that would probably help my understanding of what is or is not appropriate a lot better than simply explaining.

Also, allowing me to make mistakes and learn from them would be a big help. I would rather be allowed to make mistakes than to be coddled like a child. And I don't want people to just be polite with me and suffer in silence while secretly thinking I'm either creepy or stupid. Or both. Maybe if I lost weight and bleached my hair, my tendency to act like an airhead would be considered more acceptable. I have way too many blond moments, really.

But yeah. Props to my sister for actually being understanding and knowing that my mother isn't all that appropriate either. I'm so glad to have such a wonderful sister who knows how to explain things.
Yup, on the 29th, I turned 34. Yay. I still have problems with certain social skills. It's kinda depressing, really.

My mom was talking to my dad, in my presence, saying that people probably tolerate me walking up and chatting to them because they're being polite and they think I'm "retarded". Yup. Her exact words. Down to that invective.

It wasn't a total horrible day, but my argumentative habits upset her. We went out to dinner, and it went off without her being embarrassed, and funny thing is, someone from our Church did something that even *I* wouldn't do; he sat down in my dad's seat while he was up at the salad bar. I was even speechless at first.

It's just slightly offensive when my parents tell me that I shouldn't do certain things because I have aspergers, instead of just teaching me certain social nuances for each situation. It sounds almost like she's saying, "Don't do that - you're disabled!" or even worse, "Don't do that, you're too retarded!". It's extremely patronizing and it offends me at times, but I can't just tell her how it comes off because she can be so damn self-righteous and she even treats my dad like a child.

I don't mean to sound depressing or to just bad-mouth my mother. She means well, and she is trying to get me to start routinely selling stuff on ebay, but she has a really hard time listening to people - my sister, my father, and me included. She will not listen to you for very long unless you're talking about ebay or veganism.

And yes, I get argumentative. Sometimes I just don't understand something or it sounds very illogical or too general to me - almost like telling a robot "Spread peanut butter on bread" without going through more specific steps. Not all situations apply for me like that, but if you know me well, you'll know that some statements can make me draw a blank.

Yes, people with aspergers need to learn to function in society and to obey certain rules, but they should also be taught the logic of these rules and where certain things are appropriate. I believe it is possible for someone with aspergers to learn these nuances, and it pisses me off when people we should trust seem to think it's okay to patronize us. We're already tap-dancing for you guys - why not meet us halfway?
I've been on the internet for quite awhile, and looking back, I've begun to realize something. Popular deviants often end up being hated and ridiculed because of the way they complain about getting tons of messages from fans. I can understand that much of the issue is being expected to answer everyone's email, IM, or PM and dealing with impatient fans. However, the mistake many popular young deviants make is ranting about all these fans demanding attention. There is a Cracked article explaining why this can make people hate you: www.cracked.com/blog/5-ways-yo…

Here's an excerpt from that article:

In this particular example, you told a story that involved A) you having sex, B) doing it in a car, and C) an expensive clean-up bill. Meanwhile, the guy you told the story to is a single dad who A) hasn't had sex in three years, B) can't afford a car, and C) can't waste $200 on drunken mistakes because he has a kid.

So in his eyes, you're like that douchebag at your high school reunion who desperately tries to wedge a dozen stealth boasts into the conversation: "And then while I was in PARIS I found out my MAID accidentally broke a $5,000 VASE and my wife was late for her PHOTO SHOOT because SHE'S A MODEL and I had to hire a TAILOR because every pair of pants I buy is TOO TIGHT IN THE CROTCH." That guy is a douchebag because he's clearly trying to remind you that he is in a higher social and economic position than you -- he has the kind of "problems" you would kill to have. He is, in other words, trying to assert his power over you. That's why we hate people like him.



Don't forget that many of your fans only have a few friends and maybe never got much attention when they were young. They were probably bullied by classmates and teachers, neglected, put in foster care, or bounced from parent to parent or relative to relative. True, you can't always answer every message, especially if you have tons of them, but complaining and ranting about getting loads of messages from someone who may not understand how busy you are, can be interpreted as "I'm more important than you."

Now on page 2 of the article, there is a section on time-wasting which can easily be seen as a parallel to what often goes on between popular deviants and their fans: www.cracked.com/blog/5-ways-yo…

There can often be no prefect way to keep the situation from turning into a shitstorm, but please, both parties, be polite about it. Don't write a rant that can come off as a stealth boast reminding all of your less-popular fans of your status on deviantart. Just remember that as that article states:

An extreme shortage is never something to get emotional about when you're not the one suffering from it..

Fans, popular deviants can't give everyone equal attention; everyone has really good friends, and you should not expect to be someone's best friend, especially if that person has a lot of responsibilities and demands from others (like say, commissions, school, work, family, and irl friends). Popular deviants, please be gentle to your friends and try to avoid sounding like you are bragging about getting so many messages that you can't answer every one of them. Try to make yourself look less powerful and things will go better for both of you.

Now for the creeps who are doing things like hitting on you? Tell them off and make it clear that you don't want them around. Getting bombarded by messages is one thing, but getting declarations of love or pervy fantasies involving you, a pair of Wii nunchucks, and a jar of goober-grape peanut butter from someone you don't know is just... yuck.

Anyway though, please try to avoid asserting power over others. That will make people less likely to hate you. Now if you can excuse me, I must get some sleep so I can make the most of the day playing on my super-expensive laptop and drinking imported Earl Grey tea from a fragile china teacup while watching some movies from Hulu on a super big HD TV in my spacious mansion ( just kidding on the spacious mansion part. You can tell I read too much Cracked ) ;)
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I've been pestered by this flicker woodpecker for awhile. It wakes me up early in the morning, or it makes me dream that someone is knocking at my door. Wish he'd go peck a tree or something. What makes the house so attractive to this dumb bird?

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sanjouin-dacapo
Da Da Capo
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Some people would argue that a woman would not report continual sexual harassment simply because it would jeopardize her job, and it would suck to either move back home with her parents or even be unable to keep her current standard of living. However, I think that if she keeps silent due to not wanting to be fired, then she is essentially just putting a price on her integrity. She's saying that for [whatever they are paying her] she will tolerate being sexually harassed. For example, if her pay is $25 per hour, and she is being sexually harassed at work and is afraid to tell because she thinks she will be fired, then she is putting that very price on her integrity. Basically, she is saying, "You can harass me with sexually demeaning comments and perhaps even grope me for $25 per hour."

To me, it comes off as selling out - compromising your personal values and integrity for a specific price. I mean, ever hear a joke about a man who asked a woman if she'd sleep with him for a million dollars. She said, "Sure!" then he asked her if she'd sleep with him for a hundred dollars. She said, "What do you think I am? A whore?" He said, "We already got that part established - now we just have to agree on the price!"

If you don't like something about your job, and the environment is becoming hostile, please, as soon as possible, do something. Get out of that horrible environment if you have to, or report it, and make sure you document these cases. If you value your dignity and integrity, then don't sell out.

As for sexual harassment, I think it should be stomped out in the workplace. There's no excuse for it. I am in no way defending anyone who is sexually harassing coworkers. It is demeaning, and it causes stress, and really, there are people who need these jobs and don't want to have to ask for assistance from family or friends. People who bully or sexually demean coworkers or employees are scum. My mother had to deal with one such scum-bag who started bragging to her about his penis, and was telling her that she knew she wanted to touch it. Sexual harassment laws should be far tougher, I believe, but at the same time, we all have to start doing our parts to convince these companies that this behaviour is unacceptable and we will not support or work for them if that is what they allow.

In other words, we should not sell out.

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Lady1Venus Featured By Owner Dec 17, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
thank you for the fav
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TotallyDeviantLisa Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Hey sweetie! Would you like to see how I improve my art? :)
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sanjouin-dacapo Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2014  Student Digital Artist
Yeah. I've noticed your art is quite stylized, but it does employ a lot of basic shapes. Good start on that! Try working on some realism too though, because that can really help you improve.
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TotallyDeviantLisa Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
That's what I do for my anime! Thanks for the comment! :)
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mosvalsky Featured By Owner Oct 1, 2014  Student General Artist
Found you! :D
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sanjouin-dacapo Featured By Owner Oct 2, 2014  Student Digital Artist
Awesome! Do you do critiques? I love giving and getting them, and right now my art has lots of room for improvement.
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Diewahne Featured By Owner Sep 8, 2014
I'm sorry that I haven't read your fanfiction yet. I wrote a journal and put your link in it... Sweating a little... 
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sanjouin-dacapo Featured By Owner Sep 8, 2014  Student Digital Artist
Thank you :D

There are loads of things I do need to correct though lol... found that out sometime ago XD
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Diewahne Featured By Owner Sep 8, 2014
You're welcome. :D
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GenTamoraJeanCalhoun Featured By Owner Jul 22, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
How's it going?
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