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Last night, I went to a group meeting for aspergers. It was a little different from the others, in that there was a guest speaker who also has aspergers. He was teaching us how to pass as neurotypicals. He did three scenarios - two with one of the regulars, and one with the group moderator, my counselor. With each scenario, he first did it the wrong way, the way an aspie would do it, and then he would do it the neurotypical way.
We each got to see how he acted as a typical aspie, asking personal questions and doing a lot of TMI, inappropriate touching and eye contact, and often ignoring the other person's signals that he was invading her personal space. I saw how awkward and creepy the whole scenario was. It was rather cringe-inducing, and I may have behaved like that when I was younger, partly because of my aspergers and partly due to poor eyesight and lack of glasses.
The second part of each scenario, he did everything right - maintaining comfortable distance, making good eye contact, keeping conversation appropriate, etc. It looked so right, and this is kinda how I chat with people in public places these days. I tend to watch myself and apologize if I jabber too much, especially if it's about certain subjects, and I want to keep alert so I don't offend the person I'm talking to.
It kinda reminded me of that show "Snog, Marry, Avoid?" where the people are shown how to dress appropriately. For aspies, it's not always about dress, but more about behaviour, because we can be so blind to how our behaviour makes others feel. We can act rude or creepy without knowing it, but when we find out, we usually are very horrified and apologetic.
I think that all children - especially those on the autistic spectrum - should be shown various scenarios concerning this kind of etiquette so they will know how certain behaviour is seen from someone else's eyes. Aspies tend to be very clumsy with social stuff because we lack social empathy; no, it's not that we don't care, but it's that we don't know. We need a pair of 'glasses' so we know how to act.
For me, the Encyclopedia Dramatica was a real eye-opener, and seeing certain awkward and creepy interactions on videos, in real life, or on chat logs has helped me understand how others would see typical aspie behaviour. Back when I was younger, we didn't have these tools. Often, others would think that we were behaving like this on purpose just to make them uncomfortable, but now we have the tools to help us at least 'pass' as neurotypicals.
If you or someone you know has aspergers, look up some videos showing how not to interact, and then show appropriate interactions. The rules may seem kind of silly, but following them can go a long way to help improve your social life. I wish these teaching tools were available when I was much younger.
We each got to see how he acted as a typical aspie, asking personal questions and doing a lot of TMI, inappropriate touching and eye contact, and often ignoring the other person's signals that he was invading her personal space. I saw how awkward and creepy the whole scenario was. It was rather cringe-inducing, and I may have behaved like that when I was younger, partly because of my aspergers and partly due to poor eyesight and lack of glasses.
The second part of each scenario, he did everything right - maintaining comfortable distance, making good eye contact, keeping conversation appropriate, etc. It looked so right, and this is kinda how I chat with people in public places these days. I tend to watch myself and apologize if I jabber too much, especially if it's about certain subjects, and I want to keep alert so I don't offend the person I'm talking to.
It kinda reminded me of that show "Snog, Marry, Avoid?" where the people are shown how to dress appropriately. For aspies, it's not always about dress, but more about behaviour, because we can be so blind to how our behaviour makes others feel. We can act rude or creepy without knowing it, but when we find out, we usually are very horrified and apologetic.
I think that all children - especially those on the autistic spectrum - should be shown various scenarios concerning this kind of etiquette so they will know how certain behaviour is seen from someone else's eyes. Aspies tend to be very clumsy with social stuff because we lack social empathy; no, it's not that we don't care, but it's that we don't know. We need a pair of 'glasses' so we know how to act.
For me, the Encyclopedia Dramatica was a real eye-opener, and seeing certain awkward and creepy interactions on videos, in real life, or on chat logs has helped me understand how others would see typical aspie behaviour. Back when I was younger, we didn't have these tools. Often, others would think that we were behaving like this on purpose just to make them uncomfortable, but now we have the tools to help us at least 'pass' as neurotypicals.
If you or someone you know has aspergers, look up some videos showing how not to interact, and then show appropriate interactions. The rules may seem kind of silly, but following them can go a long way to help improve your social life. I wish these teaching tools were available when I was much younger.
Checked On A Couple Old Enemies
If you think you're one of them, congrats, you're so vain, you probably think this post is about you. Anyhoo. These two people... I can't believe how much grief and pain they caused me back then. Twenty flipping years ago. Don't even know what I had initially posted to piss them off so damn much. But I was accused of like... sucking up to them and then saying something different somewhere else? Dunno. Idiot me tried to apologize a few times instead of being smart and leaving them to sulk. They were dealing with some dude who was powertripping apparently. Wish I had just left them be, to be honest. It would've done much for my sanity. Still, I've had experiences with others and haven't had such intensely bad reactions. I mean, I've maybe somewhat agreed with someone who was involved in some dispute with them. They were still nothing but nice. So maybe it wasn't me. And to tell you the truth, these people made me feel really bad just by being so nice. Kinda makes you think, ya
Furries... DON'T BE JERKS!
https://youtu.be/5d_VQspxw-s?si=u6pOLrgQc4oxBLOM Shameful. I've known several furries and they would have social decor. They wouldn't subject others to their games, they wouldn't bite or scratch others. They wouldn't spray others or demand litter boxes in school. These idiots are behaving like Pochiraccoon, that asshole who pee-peed his diaper in someone else's car, stunk it and the hotel room up, and farted on Dragoneer. Disgusting! Like, is it that hard to NOT BE A JERK? Is it that hard to just follow the rules and behave yourself in a society? I took part in the furry fandom like, twenty years ago, and would NEVER dream of doing that crap. Seriously. Do I have to spell it out? Do WE have to spell it out? DON'T BE JERKS!
Finally Figured Out Something!
I think I pretty much figured out the time signature of this particular song. The tune is rather meandering and weird, but when I had it in six or twelve beats, it seemed to fit quite well. All those weird notes can be confusing, can't they? Either way, Dan Froliech is a genius!
Watching A YouTube Video On Mary Kay Letourneau
I'm watching a video about Mary Kay Letourneau. I have to say: Villi, this was NEVER your fault. You were used and abused and RAPED. Poor guy. I want to give you a hug and some cookies and brownies and a couple budgies. No child should EVER go through that. This video just breaks my heart. Villi, you didn't ask for it, it wasn't your fault, and Mary was an awful person and is now suffering from eternal punishment for this. I hope you can someday get into a better mental place and a healthy relationship with someone who isn't a monster. Again. It wasn't your fault, and your gender never has nor will EVER make it your fault. And oh my.... still listening to this. I'm about to puke, hearing what Mary is saying. Just plain gross.
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Yay, more people are teaching by putting the misconceptions first! That really helps drive the point home. You either feel awkward and uncomfortable, which means you already know what the correct material is, or you get genuinely confused when you see what the correct material is and it takes a bit of processing to come to terms with how the correct material really is right.