Oh, Bugger. An Aspie Stalker.

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I started going to these meetings for people with Aspergers Syndrome, and the second time I went, I met this guy around my age who seemed quiet nice and polite. He was a bit forward though. Maybe I shouldn't have given him my email and cell phone number. He called me twice in the middle of the night, and if I don't reply to his emails within like, a few hours, he jumps and emails me again, and in a recent email, he called me 'Miss anti social'. And when I told him that his behaviour was unacceptable, he accused me of 'freaking out'.

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Before I continue, yes, I do have Aspergers Syndrome, and yes, I did go down that same road that guy is going down. I used to be the clueless creepy stalker who sent relentless barrages of emails to various people. I learned from those mistakes. I learned from being flamed, threatened, and shunned. I learned to listen better and to think about how other people feel about certain things, and yes, I still have a long way to go. If you know me well, you also know that I tend to be very honest, especially when something is annoying me or creeping me out. I'm being honest with this guy, and he is not heeding my advice.

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No. I am not freaking out. I've learned quite a few things from the mistakes I've made and from my sessions with my counselor. What he's doing is inappropriate and rude, and it's kind of border-lining on creepy. I don't know him that well, and when someone you don't know that well keeps on messaging you and calls you in the middle of the night, it's a tad bit scary. If this continues, I'm going to have to forward his messages to my counselor, who organizes the meetings. This is just unacceptable.

I don't know if this guy is seeing a counselor or not, but he needs to learn some basic email and phone etiquette. I mean, hell, I learned that etiquette the hard way years ago. I learned to not be insistent, and to not keep emailing when people don't answer. The person may be busy with stuff like chores, and even then, some people are just slow to read and answer emails. I prefer to browse websites, instant message, play video games, draw, write, or make music. I also have responsibilities which I need to quit shirking.

Now, if this guy would have stopped being insistent and would just be patient and wait, then I would be more inclined to answer. However, his behaviour is becoming a real turn-off. It's getting creepy. The other net-buddies I gave my phone number to have not behaved this way. Maybe this is one reason why I'm having some trouble sleeping. Fuckity.

Anyway, I hope I'm not sounding like a bitch. I'm just starting to not feel safe when this guy tries to communicate with me, because he is not respecting my boundaries or listening to the advice I give him. People with Aspergers, please listen to advice, especially when it comes with all the subtlety of a shart in an elevator. It will do you a tremendous amount of good.
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